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You share a life--but not much of yourselves anymore

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You share a home, a life, maybe even kids — but somewhere along the way, you stopped really feeling like partners. There's a particular kind of loneliness that comes from lying next to someone and still feeling alone and it doesn't have to stay this way.

You're living parallel lives under the same roof — connected on paper, but not really there for each other anymore
Every conversation turns into an argument, or you've stopped having real conversations at all
One of you has ADHD or a different neurotype and you're both exhausted from trying to meet in the middle
Blended family dynamics are adding pressure neither of you knew how to prepare for
Perhaps there has been a betrayal and you don't know if there is a way forward
You're walking on eggshells, watching every word you say, afraid to start another argument
Emotional intimacy, sexual connection and feeling desired are a thing of the past
Parenting, working, paying bills and household tasks are you main points of connection

You've lost that lovin' feeling; hurt and distance have become the default.

Conflict...distance...hurt...silence

Rinse & Repeat

You don't want this

You want closeness and connection

You're stuck in a repeating pattern and cannot find your way out

Why is it so hard?

Some Couples Come in On the Verge of Divorce.

Other Just Miss Each Other.

Both are welcome here.

Couples Therapy Can Help You.....

Remember What It Felt Like To...

Feel safe with each other
Feel chosen
Like each other — not just love each other
Be connected and attracted to your person
Live like partners, not just roommates
Feel less alone — even in the hard moments
Turn toward each other when things get difficult

Experience...

Being heard — really, truly heard
Feeling safe enough to say the thing underneath the thing
Having conflict finally make sense — for both of you
Being free from the cycle instead of feeling trapped in it
Playing on the same team
Feeling secure enough to reach for each other instead of pulling away
Your relationship being a safe nest and a respite from the world for both of you

How I Can Help:

I'm an experienced human

I'm not a blank-slate therapist. I'm a real person — with my own experiences, my own relationships, my own hard-won understanding of what it means to love someone and lose the thread. I bring all of that into the room with me, alongside years of training and a genuine passion for this work.

I am deeply person-centered — meaning I follow you, not a script. I trust my intuition, I pay close attention, and I have a knack for hearing what's underneath what's being said. I'm also, depending on the moment, genuinely funny — because sometimes laughter is exactly what a heavy conversation needs to breathe.

I'm trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, one of the most evidence-based approaches in couples work, and I'm also Gottman-informed — meaning I bring research-backed knowledge about what actually makes relationships succeed or fail. What kills connection. What builds it. What the couples who make it are doing differently. You get all of that, woven together and tailored specifically to the two of you.

And then there's where we do this work. My office is a yurt — tucked into a meadow, quiet, warm, and completely removed from the noise of everyday life. People often exhale the moment they arrive. That's intentional. Healing happens more easily when your nervous system feels safe, and this space was designed with that in mind.

You won't feel judged here. You won't feel managed or analyzed. You'll feel met — by someone who genuinely cares, knows her stuff, and is fully in your corner.